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It’s no secret that Tiger Woods life took a sudden and abrupt down turn after late night one-car accident unraveled his alleged string of illicit affairs. There was much speculation on how this would affect his golf game, and after a strong first outing back, he has been on a downward slide which has included his worst 72 hole performance as a professional.

A recent article in the Los Angels Times explores the reasoning for Woods’ incredible decline.

It is impossible to know exactly what is affecting Woods’ game, but it seems relatively easy to assume that at least some of the stress from his personal life is affecting his golf game.

The titles of the article, Too many lawyers, too little practice means his game won’t change anytime soon, seems to muse that the lack of practice due to his divorce proceedings are the cause of his decline.

The article states that “[Woods is] hardly the first guy whose job performance took a nosedive in the middle of divorce proceedings, and he won’t be the last to get his bearings back, either. The only question is when not if.”

Echoing this confidence that Woods is likely to get his game back at any tournament he enters, are the odds makers in Las Vegas.

Tiger Woods has still been listed as the most likely to win the golf tournaments that he has entered, as high as 6-1 favorite in PGA event at Brigdestone.

The article talks about a change that has occurred in Woods’ practice time.

There was “a time when his practice time was almost sacrosanct, when business and everything else had to be put on hold for two weeks or more at a time, if that’s what his playing schedule demanded.”

Woods’ has been admittedly practicing less than he has. His personal life has become a large factor that weighs on him. Because he has been so distracted by his family life and divorce proceedings, Woods has had less time to prepare and focus on his goals.

There seems to be little confidence that Woods will be able to rebound completely until his personal life is finalized. This means that until Tiger Woods can finish his divorce proceedings, he will very likely be less than his potential on the golf course.

However, it is surprising just how certain both the odds makers and the article are that Woods will be a dominant force in the golf world again. In sports, when there are never any guarantees, it is unexpected to see this much certainty that someone like Tiger Woods will be able to regain such an extremely high level of play.

The only way to see of the confidence people have in Tiger Woods is misplaced or accurate is to see how he responds after his divorce is finalized.

A recent article in the Wall Street Journal explains research which seems to indicate that it isn’t if a couple fights, but rather how the couple fights which determines if the relationship is going well.

Some of the factors that can help gauge if your fights are healthy include, where, when, the tone and what words were used. It is also important to hear the other side out, and not just ignore the other person’s side of the dispute.
At first, this may seem counter-intuitive. How can something that feels so strongly negative be a positive force in a relationship?

Howard Markman, professor of psychology at the University of Denver and co-director of the Center for Marital and Family studies seems to give the missing logical piece when he says, “All couples disagree- it’s how they disagree that makes the difference… You can get angry, but it’s important to talk without fighting.”

It seems like an important cognitive step to take in order to understand this idea. If you are going to disagree with your significant other, and you accept that, then you also have to accept that you need to find a healthy way to encounter your disagreements.

The experts that came up with this idea also have some surprising forms of conflict classified as disagreement. There is no distinction made between “arguing, fighting, bickering or even nagging… They’re all ways of expressing disagreement with another person that often become destructive, with one or both people using insults, clamming up or storming off.”

One of the keys to moving past the negative forms of conflict is learning to talk to the other person. The longer an individual waits to bring up a conflict, the more likely it is that the confrontation is going to turn ugly.

Another good piece of advice is a time limit. When a dispute arises, the couple should agree to give it a set time, like 15 minutes for example, and take turns explaining their side of the dispute.

This style, known as the “speaker-listener technique” is supposed to help keep the parties relaxed, and make the confrontation more cordial.

Disagreements are inevitable, but the no-holds barred argument that can be all-too common is not. Understanding that disagreements will happen, and should happen is an important first step. Then finding the best way to express your point of view, while giving your significant other ample opportunity for his or her view point is also important.

Next time you and your other get in a fight, try to keep some of these tips in mind. It just might be the fix you need to turn your painful and insulting fights into healthy and refreshing discussions.

For the latest piece of evidence that the world is an increasingly cynical case, there’s now an insurance option for those who are not convinced that their vows will stick: divorce insurance.

The product, called WedLock, comes from SafeGuard Guaranty Corp., a company that claims to have created the first divorce insurance product that the world has ever seen, according to the New York Times.

The WedLock insurance policy will pay out its coverage in cash to cover legal fees and set-up for a new house in case of divorce. They sell these policies in monthly units of protection, and those who want to be covered pay a monthly installment of about $16. With each payment of $16 comes $1,250 in coverage, and the coverage accumulates with each payment that you make.

Also, as a bonus for those who continue to question the health of their marriage, SafeGuard will add $250 per year, per unit, to the coverage amount.

If you did get a divorce, you would simply send the company proof of divorce, and receive the amount that you are covered for in a lump sum.

The folks at SafeGuard have developed quite the strategy for preventing people from gaming the system and buying an insurance policy when they already know that they will be getting a divorce. One way is to make it so that a policy does not mature until 48 months after the policy’s effective date. There is, however, a premium for those who are especially jumpy and want to reduce the maturity period to 36 months.

Another rider available for purchase allows a policy holder to get their premiums back should they divorce before the allotted number of months has passed.

Another potential problem could be the high level of risk that SafeGuard could take on if a person or couple was particularly volatile in relationships, or had a family history of divorce. John A. Logan, the CEO of SafeGuard, assured the New York Times that the appropriate research had been done, and that even in a worst case scenario in which every policy holder got a divorce, the policies would not all pay out at the same time.

And why shouldn’t couples simply put the $16 per month into an investment that might create a bigger return than the insurance policy? Or what about the idea that some divorces aren’t expensive, but amicable?

Beware of an ex-spouse who could end up with that nest egg, says Logan.

“There is nothing to stop your spouse from raiding those investments and taking it all,” said the pessimistic Logan. “And then with all the money gone, you’re left with all the legal bills.”

Unsurprisingly, perhaps, Logan’s inspiration for the WedLock product sprung from his own personal experience with a divorce that presumably cost him dearly.

Logan is asking for couples to have more faith in his company than in their own marriages, too, as currently these policies aren’t covered by any state guaranty funds. So if SafeGuard goes bankrupt, and Logan finds himself divorced from his company, you are out of luck.

New York has passed a no-fault divorce law, which will enable couples to divorce without assigning blame to either member of the failed couple, according to Bloomberg.

The law will, in the eyes of its supporters, cut down on long, painful divorce battles played out in courts, costing the participants a lot of money and heartache.

The no-fault divorce bill was passed on July 1, and after that it went to Governor David Paterson’s office. He signed the bill recently.

The new measure will go into effect in 60 days. Divorces that are filed at that point or after will be the ones impacted by the new bill.

“There is a human cost and a financial cost,” said Robert Ross, the supervising judge of the matrimonial division in Nassau County, New York. “It’s hard to know what impact a new law will have, but we do know that a grounds trial, and the expense and delay associated with it, is not a good thing.”

Before the new no-fault divorce bill takes effect, New York divorce laws were the only in the nation to require fault. If two spouses were in disagreement about the terms of the divorce, they could only dissolve their marriage by proving that the other was guilty of something like adultery, cruelty or abandonment.

With such limited options, some couples resorted to trials that battled over who was to blame for a failed marriage, and which sometimes saw couples put together false claims in order to meet the requirements of the law.

It is these kinds of court dispute that the new law will attempt to prevent and avoid.

“Fault allegations and fault trials add significantly to the cost, delay and trauma of matrimonial litigation and are, in many cases, used by litigants to achieve a tactical advantage in matrimonial litigation,” said a study that was presented to a top judge in 2006.

The study was commissioned by the state to study matrimonial law in New York.
A trial stemming from the concerns of the report could last weeks, cost hundreds of thousands of dollars and involve children and friends. And while the eventuality of a fault trial is not common, when it does occur it can get, in the words of matrimonial lawyer Ronnie Gouz, “horrible.”

“They are never pleasant,” said Judge Ross. “You are putting two people in the position of pointing the finger at each other and having to defend the finger pointed at them.” He cited the strangeness of some fault cases, in which the court has had to hear from girlfriends and boyfriends, or those who people claim are boyfriends or girlfriends. “Having to sit and listen to these tings can sometimes be an overwhelming experience,” he said.

Another factor in the fault divorce has been the threat of publicizing personal information via a trial. A court trial is often something people are willing to negotiate in order to keep information from getting to the public.
The no-fault divorce eliminates this negotiating tactic.

There is a new trend among married couples, separated but not divorced.

A recent article in the New York Times describes how failing marriages are staying separated, sometimes by choice, others by their own stubbornness.

Family law differs from state to state, but for the most part, regardless of how long the couple stays separated, as long as they are married on paper then they are legally married. And these separated couples are bound by tax filing status, pensions, Social Security and health care.

Most of the time couples choose to stay married, despite the desire to be separated from each other, is due to money.

Sharon O’Neill, a marriage therapist from New York, claims to have seen four cases in the last two years where a married-but-separated couple continued to live in the same house.

“The financial collapse has made people say, ‘Let’s not rush into a divorce, let’s see if we can make something else work,’” states O’Neill.

With the housing market in the tanks, couples may decide that selling the house wouldn’t be financially wise—especially if they purchased the house at the peak of the housing bubble.

Many people, perhaps even most, are staying together for the money, but a still large portion of unhappily married couples remains so for the children.

It is, however, debatable if trying to make an unhappy marriage stay together is really ever in the best interest of the children.

One of the risks of a long term separation, fittingly, is also financial.

Trying to stay married for the financial benefits may, ironically enough, wind up being to your financial detriment. If your estranged spouse decides to rack up large credit card bills, some of your assets might be responsible for the debt. Or, if you win the lottery, you winnings will likely become community property, with your ex being entitled to a portion.

There is also the risk of losing complete contact with your estranged spouse. If you find the love of your life, and want nothing more to remarry, you’d better be able to locate your ex to receive a divorce.

It’s difficult to imagine a more frustrating fate than being perpetually stuck married to someone you shouldn’t have ever been married too.

If you do decide that you don’t want to be married, then you should carefully weigh the options before you.

There are benefits to staying married, in some instances, and benefits to getting a divorce. Worrying about what makes you happy is important to determine what route you should go down.

If you think your best move is to remain married, then make sure you and your spouse are on the same page.

If you remain married, even if you separate from him or her, you will still have contact, and your life will not be fully separated from him or her.

This week’s celebrity divorce news round-up features the full slate of love and scandal that we have come to expect from the headline-grabbers and gossip column characters.

Among the stories, a TV psychologist finds new love quickly on the heels of a divorce, a songstress denies breaking up another marriage, and an on-again, off-again Hollywood marriage finally and officially comes to an end.

Kelsey Grammer recently Tweeted and blogged about the divorce from his wife of 13 years, Camille Donatacci, denying a few rumors that were floating around and asking the press for privacy. Well, only a month on from his wife’s divorce filing, Grammer has been seen around town with a new flame.

CNN is reporting that Grammer has been seen out and about with “a mystery blonde.” A publicist for Grammer did not expand upon the identity of the TV star’s date, but did say that “they are very happy together,” and provided the tidbit that his new fling is not involved in the entertainment industry.

TMZ.com had posted a video of Grammer and the woman kissing and holding hands while walking in Manhattan. Grammer is currently starring in the musical “La Cage Aux Folles” on Broadway.

In potentially more scandalous news, American Idol star and singer Fantasia Barrino has had to deflect a series of rumors stemming from a divorce filing that claims that her affair with a married man broke up that marriage, according to USAToday.

A North Carolina woman made those claims in a divorce filing, saying that her husband, Antwuan Cook, had a “covert adulterous affair” with Fantasia, which was a reason for the couple’s break-up.

Fantasia, however, has denied that anything that she did was a reason for the divorce. According to her manager, “Fantasia is certain that she is not responsible for the deterioration of the Cook’s marriage.” Fantasia’s lawyer went so far as to claim that the woman, Paula Cook, was attempting to sensationalize her divorce, telling TMZ.com, “Mrs. Cook gratuitously included claims about Fantasia to sensationalize that litigation and to insure that her tale would be picked up by tabloids.”

Mrs. Cook also claimed in the divorce filing that she had spoken to Fantasia on the phone, and that the American Idol star told her, of her husband, “he don’t want you. Maybe the next time that you get a husband you’ll know how to keep him. That’s why he is here with me.”

The ongoing marriage saga of actors Sean Penn and Robin Wright seems to be over, now that divorce papers have officially been filed. The couple has split and gotten back together a number of times over the years, but court show that they are now officially divorced, according to the Associated Press.

Their 14-year-marriage ended after Wright filed for divorce last August. This was the third time that they had petitioned for either separation or divorce. The couple will share custody of their 16-year-old son. They also have a 19-year-old daughter together.

There were no details on financial figures, and the couple has not responded to requests for comment.